Editor’s Blog

The 2014 Global MenEngage Symposium

Rob : December 10, 2014 8:03 am : Editor's Blog

Standing in a sunny courtyard of the India Habitat Centre in New Delhi, I am surrounded by a sea of delegates streaming into day one of the global symposium, Men and Boys for Gender Justice. Organized by MenEngage, an international network of nearly 700 NGOs operating on every continent, it is day one of a symposium that has attracted more than 1000 people from 93 countries. I am one, a member of the North American MenEngage Network (NAMEN). Continue reading »

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Men and Boys for Gender Justice

Rob : November 8, 2014 11:37 am : Editor's Blog

From New York to New Delhi

By Rob Okun

Entitled menchildren in the National Football League spark renewed attention to the epidemic of domestic violence and child abuse. Brave young women speaking truth to power demand action to halt sexual assaults on college campuses. Pioneering profeminist men from around the world gather in India to engage men and boys to promote gender equality.

In the ongoing effort to transform manhood, the pace has been accelerating. From the White House to the 50-yard line, from Kolkata to Cape Town, the call for men to change, to be allies with women in the work of ending gender-based violence and redefining manhood, is growing louder. From the Obama administration’s ItsOnUs campaign to the Emma Watson–supported United Nations’ HeforShe, opportunities are also growing for men to add our voices to the global conversation about men and masculinities. By the time summer ended, I was feeling the need to slow down, to reflect on what’s been unfolding on the dizzying, windy road to gender justice.

I got my wish to decelerate on the weekend of the autumn equinox. I had been invited to participate in a weekend gathering at the Omega Institute, whose women’s leadership conference for the first time in its 12-year history included men. Continue reading »

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Nonviolent Men: The New Silent Majority

Rob : September 19, 2014 5:29 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

“Women want a men’s movement. We are literally dying for it.”
—Gloria Steinem

It’s way past time to put on the pads, guys. We’ve got to put our shoulders to the wheel of change if we’re going to stop domestic and sexual violence. Are you ready to suit up for the big game? Except, of course, it ain’t no game; the lives of our daughters and sisters, wives and mothers are on the line. Continue reading »

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In the War to Protect Masculinity, Hamas and Israel Make Strange Bedfellows

Rob : August 1, 2014 8:43 pm : Editor's Blog

Benjamin Netanyahu and Khaled Meshaal

 

“A man’s got to do, what a man’s got to do. And a country’s got to do what a country’s got to do.” —Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, July 21, 2014 interview on NBC News

Amid weeks of horror and unconscionable suffering in the Gaza Strip there is a truth hiding in plain sight: Wild West manhood is being played out in the Middle East. Shoot first; ask questions never. Tough talkin’ man up bluster, both from Hamas leader Khaled Meshaal and Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu—poster boys for a strain of masculinity so toxic it’s infected thousands of young men on both sides. Continue reading »

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Wanted: Men to Change Masculinity Narrative

Rob : June 24, 2014 10:18 pm : Editor's Blog

We need more men to wake up to the reality women live with everyday—the possibility of being raped or beaten.

At Father’s Day this year, it was hard not to think about the fathers whose children were murdered in mass killings. My thoughts turned to the fathers—and mothers—of those slain in Isla Vista, California in the aftermath of Elliot Rodger’s misogynist-fueled rampage. Just as the Sandy Hook fathers felt the ache in their hearts, so do these men. Continue reading »

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Profeminist Men and “The Great Turning”

Rob : February 9, 2014 8:46 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

I’ve long believed that those of us committed to social change—whether achieving gender justice, restoring a threatened democracy, or healing an endangered planet—have greatest success when we accentuate the positive. The bad news seems to take care of itself. At the same time, every day there are committed people around the world advancing a counternarrative—promoting what David Korten years ago dubbed “the great turning.” I’m not suggesting we ignore bad news—Steubenville and Sandy Hook, for example, make that impossible. Still, the media (Voice Male included) have a responsibility to strike a balance and for the most part good news is too often still under the radar.

In the years I’ve edited Voice Male, I’ve seesawed back and forth in search of that balance. As much as the magazine has reported on the bad news (a year ago we devoted half our pages to Sandy Hook), in every issue we’ve worked to incorporate the vision and values of a new possibility for men and masculinities as reflected in the work of the profeminist men’s movement. It is in that movement that I have long seen not just a “hope” to transform conventional ideas about manhood but concrete action to realize it. It’s what motivated me to write and edit the new book VOICE MALE: The Untold Story of the Profeminist Men’s Movement.

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Raising Healthy Boys—and Helping At Risk Men—After Newtown

Rob : December 13, 2013 10:34 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

There’s something happening here
What it is ain’t exactly clear
There’s a man with a gun over there
Telling me I got to beware
I think it’s time we stop, children, what’s that sound
Everybody look what’s going down
—Stephen Stills, “For What It’s Worth”

Is the U.S. population so psychically numb that news of another “school shooting” barely registers? The day before the first anniversary of the gut-wrenching Newtown massacre, an 18 year-old male shot another student and then killed himself as a sheriff’s deputy closed in on him, foiling his plans to use a backpack full of weapons and ammunition on students and staff at a Colorado high school.

I was already on edge about last year’s Connecticut tragedy when the Friday the 13th shooting happened. Continue reading »

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THE PRICE OF A TICKET: Who’s Driving the Bus

Rob : October 10, 2013 11:29 pm : Editor's Blog

By E. Ethelbert Miller, Voice Male contributing editor

 THE PRICE OF A TICKET: Who’s Driving the Bus

By the time you read this, the incident I describe would have happened some time ago. By the time you read this another similar incident could occur.

It was a Sunday and I was on a bus going up 16th Street in Washington,D.C.  It wasn’t a crowded bus. There were a few Ethiopian women dressed in beautiful white garments and returning from church. Two men got on and went to the back of the bus. I was reading A Poet’s Craft, a new book by Annie Finch, and was engrossed with where poems come from and how things turn into poems. Behind me I heard the voice of a black man; the angry black man rage that often reminds me of how middle class I’ve become. Continue reading »

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The Unspeakable and Men’s Lives

Rob : October 1, 2013 5:27 pm : Editor's Blog

One of the awful facts of our age is the evidence that [the world] is stricken indeed, stricken to the very core of its being by the presence of the Unspeakable…[that] too few are willing to see.
—Thomas Merton

When we speak, we are afraid. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak.
—Audre Lorde

JFK, Malcolm, MLK, and RFK

President John F. Kennedy, Malcolm X, Martin Luther King, Jr., and Robert F. Kennedy were all assassinated between 1963 and 1968 under circumstances that still have not been adequately explained.

 

“What if?…” All of us have uttered those two words at one time or another as we contemplated what might have been. Often our focus is personal. “What if mom or dad had lived long enough to meet the new grandchild?,” for example. Sometimes the focus is global.

In the case of Project Unspeakable—a political meditation on truth, morality and secrecy as much as a compelling new play—the “what if” has profound implications for our times. “What if JFK, RFK, MLK, and Malcolm X had not been assassinated?” the play asks. “What would the world look like if they had lived?” That all four were gunned down within a five-year period—1963–1968—remains a life-altering backdrop to the lives of many who came of age in the sixties. Continue reading »

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Reports of Feminism’s Demise Have Been Greatly Exaggerated

Rob : August 1, 2013 4:48 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

 

“I don’t know why people are so reluctant to say they’re feminists. Maybe some women just don’t care. But how could it be any more obvious that we still live in a patriarchal world when feminism is a bad word?”

—Ellen Page, actor

 

“If the word ‘feminist’ has negative connotations, running away from the word won’t fix that. Whatever new word you come up with will eventually take on the same negative connotations. Because the problem isn’t with feminists; it’s with those who demonize feminism.”

—Rebecca Cohen, cartoonist

 

With such an onslaught of pressing issues facing those concerned about gender justice today (for starters consider the recent actions to severely restrict women’s reproductive rights by the legislatures in North Carolina, Ohio and Texas, and by Clear Channel in Kansas), the current debate about whether it’s still appropriate to call oneself a “feminist”—or in the case of the magazine I edit, Voice Male , a “pro-feminist”—seems to me to be a huge, politically divisive distraction. Continue reading »

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Abundance within Despair: The Ways We Are Responding to the Zimmerman Verdict – By Chris Rabb

Rob : July 19, 2013 10:24 am : Editor's Blog, Front Page
A member of Voice Male’s national advisory board, Chris Rabb is a national thought leader at the intersection of entrepreneur-ship, politics, media, and social identity. He teaches social entrepreneurship at Temple University and is the author of Invisible Capital: How Unseen Forces Shape Entrepreneurial Opportunity (2010).

 

In this public moment our nation is experiencing in the wake of the Zimmerman acquittal, I have seen a range of responses that reflect the many constructive ways communities can deal with trauma, most notably, nonviolent protests. And there are many ways to protest. 

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Male Student Athletes: New Profeminist Allies?

Rob : June 14, 2013 10:07 am : Editor's Blog, Front Page

Twenty two leading athletes sent a letter to the editor of their school newspaper at prestigious Phillips Academy in Massachusetts that said it time to speak out about sexist male athlete culture. The graduating captains of the football, baseball, basketball, hockey, soccer, lacrosse, track, cross country, golf, volleyball, water polo and squash teams' letter said it was time for male athletes to become part of the solution in working for gender equality.

Twenty two leading athletes sent a letter to the editor of their school newspaper at prestigious Phillips Academy in Massachusetts that said it is time to speak out about sexist male athlete culture. The graduating captains of the football, baseball, basketball, hockey, soccer, lacrosse, track, cross country, golf, volleyball, water polo and squash teams’ letter said male athletes must become part of the solution to create gender equality.

VDay.org invited Voice Male editor Rob Okun to write the newest V-Men column where this editor’s blog first appeared.

In a world where too many men stay silent in the face of discrimination against women—from sexual harassment to domestic and sexual violence—the public statement of a chorus of young Massachusetts male athletes not long before Father’s Day offers a sliver of new hope.

Twenty-two graduating senior athletes from prestigious Phillips Academy in Andover, Mass. signed a letter to the editor of the school newspaper on May 30 that explicitly endorsed feminism. Continue reading »

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The End Days of Wayne LaPierre

Rob : June 12, 2013 12:21 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

The tears of Sandy Hook fathers are mixing with the fierce determination of Sandy Hook mothers to create a tribe of new social justice change agents: activist parents. Photo: Hartford Courant

The tears of Sandy Hook fathers are mixing with the fierce determination of Sandy Hook mothers to create a tribe of new social justice change agents: activist parents. Photo: Hartford Courant.

I suggest putting a teacher in every gun store.
—Jef Johnson

The National Rifle Association’s public face, Wayne LaPierre, woke me up the other night. No, it wasn’t a midnight phone call; it was a dream. He wanted to know what I’d thought of “the speech.” You know, the insensitive one he delivered last December 21, just seven days after Adam Lanza shot his mother in her bed and then went to Sandy Hook Elementary School and murdered 20 first graders and six school staff before turning one of the weapons in his mother’s arsenal on himself. Continue reading »

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White Ribbon Day: INVITING MEN OFF THE SIDELINES

Rob : March 11, 2013 12:20 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

TAKING THE PLEDGE: Men participating in  White Ribbon Day  pledge "to be part of the solution in ending violence against women."  The commemoration is held each March at the Massachusetts statehouse in Boston. VOICE MALE editor Rob Okun is in the center (with notepad).

TAKING THE PLEDGE: Men participating in White Ribbon Day pledge “to be part of the solution in ending violence against women.” The commemoration is held each March at the Massachusetts statehouse in Boston. VOICE MALE editor Rob Okun is in the center (with notepad).

WHAT ABOUT THE MEN WHO ARE TRYING TO DO THE RIGHT THING?

That was the thought I had the other day after hearing what was intended as an innocuous joke. “If you took a vote on which is the better gender,” a female friend said, “men would come in second.”

The wry smile that crossed my face quickly faded. Society is so often poised to castigate men that even those working to transform manhood and old school, conventional masculine culture are mostly invisible. Continue reading »

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A Prescription for a New Valentine’s Day

Rob : February 12, 2013 7:40 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

For me, Valentine’s Day is a teachable moment more than a holiday. It’s a perfect time to promote healthy relationships more than romantic gifts and candlelight dinners. Don’t get me wrong. I like a sweet evening out with my honey as much as anybody. I just have a hard time being dreamy-eyed if I’m simultaneously turning a blind eye to the outbreak of domestic and sexual violence still plaguing us. It’s a disorder very difficult to treat. Continue reading »

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Fatal Distraction: Manhood, Guns, & Violence – By Allan Johnson

Rob : January 7, 2013 3:32 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

Voice Male contributing editor ALLAN JOHNSON, a member of the magazine’s national advisory board, has written several books, including The Gender Knot: Unraveling Our Patriarchal Legacy and the domestic violence novel, The First Thing and the Last. The article below, “Fatal Distraction: Manhood, Guns, and Violence,” is featured in the print edition of the Winter issue of the magazine. It is also featured on his website, www.agjohnson.us, where readers can see a range of his writings.

As I write this, it’s been only a few weeks since the mass murder of children and teachers in Newtown, Connecticut, less than 50 miles from my home. I have grandchildren of the same age as the children who were killed. So, I’m finding it especially difficult to listen to the latest national conversation about gun violence, because, like all the others, it’s being conducted in a way that guarantees that such violence will continue. Continue reading »

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Moving Beyond Men’s Killing Fields

Rob : December 18, 2012 1:34 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

Mourners gather last Saturday, December 15th in Newtown, CT at a candlelight vigil remembering the victims of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shootings the day before. (Jason DeCrow/AP Photo)

By Rob Okun

There’s something happening here
What it is ain’t exactly clear
There’s a man with a gun over there
Telling me I got to beware
I think it’s time we stop, children, what’s that sound
Everybody look what’s going down

“For What it’s Worth,” by Stephen Stills (Buffalo Springfield, 1966)

In the wake of Adam Lanza’s murderous rampage, men in particular, must not stay silent. There’s an epidemic in our “man culture” we can ill afford to locate on the periphery, ceding center stage to the narrow gun control debate. Continue reading »

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I’m Mad as Hell at Conventional Manhood

Rob : December 6, 2012 12:39 am : Editor's Blog, Front Page

By Rob Okun

There are too many damn tragic anniversaries of men killing women. Pick any month and you’ll find them. Take December 6th— it was the 23rd anniversary of the Montréal Massacre. A man stormed into the city’s École Polytechnique on that date in 1989 and murdered 14 women and wounded 10 others. The mass-murderer who then killed himself, was Marc Lépine, 25—same age as Jovan Belcher, the Kansas City Chiefs linebacker who murdered his girlfriend and himself December 1st. Continue reading »

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Romney and Kid Rock: An Unholy Alliance

Rob : November 2, 2012 9:17 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

Mitt Romney’s strange association with the misogynist Kid Rock is hypocritical and inexcusable.

By Jackson Katz

11-2-2012

Few eyebrows were raised a couple of weeks ago when the Michigan native musician Kid Rock introduced Republican vice-presidential nominee Paul Ryan at a campaign stop in suburban Detroit, and Ryan returned the favor by calling the misogynist rocker a  “great citizen.”  The moment passed largely without critical commentary, as did a Rock performance at another Romney campaign event in Colorado last week. Continue reading »

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Protecting Our Children, Educating Ourselves

Rob : October 26, 2012 2:23 pm : Editor's Blog, Front Page

“Healthy masculinity means educating our sons not just to treat girls and women and boys and men with respect and kindness, but to never stay silent in the face of those who don’t.” (Image: Glyness Hernandez, via AYEA)

Penn State. The Boy Scouts. The Catholic Church. Each institution has seen its reputation sullied by sexual assaults—rapes—perpetuated by coaches, troop leaders, and priests—not faceless, nameless men in trench coats, but the man in line ahead of us at the bank. Our communities are no different.

Too, there is the horror of male students raping female students at Amherst College and a gang rape at the University of Massachusetts. While individual men committed the rapes, the institutions where they occurred bear responsibility for creating safe conditions for the young people in their care. Continue reading »

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