Category: 2015 Spring

Rinse and Repeat

By Jeremy Garcon I’m getting married in three weeks and it scares the shit out of me. There’s the planning and the details, the food, music, photos, parents, flowers, rings, license, liquor. There’s also this haunting memory of how I fucked things up once before, walked down the aisle of Christ Episcopal with my college sweetheart, a cute blonde named Jane, and lit the fuse on a domestic bomb that detonated several years later—kids crying, in-laws accusing, lawyers, arguments, agreements, Jane passed out against our kitchen trash cans that night she went binge drinking because everything hurts so goddamned...

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Men’s Healing: The Young Doc and the Vietnam Vet

Review by Rob Wilson The Stethoscope Cure By Sam Osherson Solyphos Press, 2014 357 pages paperback, $17.95   Can therapists who have never been to war help veterans who have? That’s the central question psychologistwriter Sam Osherson ponders in The Stethoscope Cure, a novel set in the tumultuous 1960s. Dr. Paul Gliverstein is a young psychiatry resident at a fictional Manhattan VA hospital during the Vietnam War era. The sixties are a character in the book, with physically and emotionally wounded Vietnam veterans arriving at the VA where Gliverstein works in troubled transition from the battlefield to the home...

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Partying with Consent

By Jonathan Kalin In 2012, I had an idea to end sexual assault on college campuses. What if students would “party with consent?” I was 20, thought I knew everything, thought I could control how others behaved, and thought sexual assault would be gone in the blink of an eye if people would just implement my brilliant idea. During my sophomore spring at Colby College in Waterville, Maine, I was named captain of the basketball team and president of a group called Male Athletes Against Violence. At the time, sexual assault was a hotly discussed topic on campus. However,...

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Mail Bonding

And A Child Shall Lead Us On a peaceful snowy day, as we sipped cups of hot cocoa, my six year-old daughter seemed upset. “Mom, why does everyone want to make snowmen? I want to make a snowgirl. Why do people always talk about firemen, or policemen? It makes me so mad.” Where would I begin? This would be the start of a conversation we’d continue over the years. My daughter’s already aware of some hard truths. At five she noted that TV sports was nearly all men and told us that she wanted to watch women play basketball....

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Spring 2015 Edition

Features Indian Men Redefining Masculinity Ruhi Kandhari In a break from tradition in the discourse about violence against women, a group of Indian men is offering an alternative view of Indian masculinity.The Men’s Action for Stopping Violence Against Women (MASVAW) includes social workers, students, academics and journalists who organize meetings, hold rallies, and use street media to spread the word about new ideas about men and masculinity… Born, Bought, and Brutalized: A Kenyan Tale By Wanjala Wafula The emaciated, malnourished, and openly scared women gently whisper to each other as if they are frightened of being heard. Before them...

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Mothering Sons, Mentoring Men

By Joann Bautti As I drove my 10-year-old son home from his Little League baseball game, I listened to his excited chatter about his team winning. Aidan has a reputation in our family for being a chatterbox. What I didn’t realize right away was what he was proud of himself for. After the game, when all the boys were scattered about laughing and talking, one of the coaches yelled, “Come on, ladies, huddle up!” “That’s sexist,” Aidan told the coach. I gripped the steering wheel, feeling a simultaneous mix of pride and fear. “How did your coach respond?” I...

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Why Involve Men in Feminism?

By Nikki van der Gaag I have been a feminist since my early twenties. I have marched against violence against women and in favor of abortion. I have joined campaigns against sexism and discrimination. As a writer, I have also had the privilege of talking to women and girls and sometimes men and boys in many countries about the role that gender plays in their lives. In that time I have seen many improvements. Girls in many countries are going to school and doing as well as or better than boys and young men. Women have moved into the...

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Beyond the Mantras: Working with Men to End Violence Against Women

By Michael Flood It is high time to take stock of efforts to involve men in preventing violence against women. In particular, it is time to critically examine a series of assumptions about men’s work in this area that are influential but either are unsupported by evidence or are dangerous. I have long argued that men have a positive and vital role to play in ending men’s violence against women. But advocacy must be accompanied by critical assessment. I examine three dimensions to involving men in preventing violence against women: relations with feminism (practical and conceptual); understandings of men,...

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Men, Feminism, and Accountability

Among the profeminist activists who appear in the new book, Some Men, are, from the left: Paul Kivel, Emiliano Diaz de Leon, Craig Norberg-Bohm, Quentin Walcott, and Gilbert Salazar. By Michael A. Messner, Max A. Greenberg, and Tal Peretz What does it mean for men to ally with women to stop gender-based violence? This is the central question Mike Messner, Max Greenberg, and Tal Peretz tackle in their new book Some Men: Feminist Allies and the Movement to End Violence Against Women. This book is based on interviews with 52 North American men anti-violence activists aged 22–70, and 12...

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Why We Should Celebrate Men Working for Change

After reading the article “From MenEngaged to Men—and Women—Being Enraged” (Fall 2014), by Gary Barker, White Ribbon Campaign cofounder and longtime profeminist activist Michael Kaufman was moved to write a response. Barker, cochair of MenEngage, the global alliance of men’s organizations advancing women’s equality and the transformation of manhood, had cautioned his colleagues not to indulge in premature self-congratulation (as Michael Kimmel puts it) by uncritically applauding the movement’s successes. “We should celebrate only when we see true and sustainable progress toward gender equality…” Barker wrote. “Until then MenEngage[d] must be MenEnRaged.” With sobering data from around the world...

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The Delhi Declaration and Call to Action

Men and Boys for Gender Justice At the second MenEngage Global Symposium (November 10–13, 2014), some 1200 activists, researchers, practitioners, and other professionals converged in New Delhi, India. The “Men and Boys for Gender Justice” delegates, represented by individuals from a mix of NGOs from 94 countries, met for four days at the Indian Habitat Centre, where plenaries, presentations, and breakout sessions allowed for a rich exchange of ideas. Equally rich were the informal lunchtime and tea break gatherings the women, men and transgender delegates held in the center’s spacious, sunny courtyard. Attendees held a shared awareness of living...

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Gay Fathering in Latin America

By Marcos Nascimento For 20 years Marcos Nascimento has been working with groups of young and adult men, practitioners, educators, and policy makers on how to promote gender equality in Brazil and elsewhere in Latin America. In recent years, fatherhood has become a major area of interest and in 2012, Nascimento was invited to be part of a new initiative developed by a Rio de Janeiro– based NGO. A group of professionals, mostly family therapists, were starting a new project that offered a safe space for gays and lesbians who had children—and those interested in having children— a place...

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Young Men in India Challenging Sexism and Rape Culture

By Harish Sadani When he was in college nine years ago, Sunil Chachar did masonry work and sold flowers for a living. After attending a residential camp on gender sensitization, Chachar, 28, who grew up in Mavdi village, a district in Pune, India, realized that his mother was doing all the household chores. He’d also believed housework was beneath him. Questioning the male dominance in all spheres of life—including the decision to do housework— Sunil started doing domestic chores, including cooking and cleaning. Despite the taunts of relatives and neighbors who called him a sissy, he continues doing them...

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Men @ Work: Spring 2015 Edition

High School Boys Say No to Violence High school boys are learning to say no to sexual assault and domestic violence. Two greater Chicago organizationsare collaborating on the Allied Against Violence Project, which recently “graduated” 38 teenage males from an Evanston, Illinois high school. Youth Organizations Umbrella (Y.O.U.) and the YWCA Evanston/North Shore received a grant of $350,000 through the Department of Justice’s Violence Against Women office to design a program to more effectively reduce dating violence. The comprehensive approach includes services for victims, prevention programs, partnering with schools, and engaging men and boys in ending violence against women....

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Perpetuating Patriarchy in India’s Classrooms

By Madhu Kushwahadd Modern nation-states have long used education to control discussions of citizenship and nationality, dissent and conformity. India is no exception. Schools are among the most favored state institutions to carry forward a nationalist agenda and have become an important place where students learn about gender identities. School life experiences (curriculum, textbooks and subject choices, pedagogical practices, learning materials and school ethos) are organized to invite conformity, not confrontation, in existing societal gendered norms. That was the conclusion of Karuna Chanana after her 2007 study of female sexuality and education of Hindu girls in India. Since nationalism...

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Born, Bought, and Brutalized: A Kenyan Tale

By Wanjala Wafula The emaciated, malnourished, and openly scared women gently whisper to each other as if they are frightened of being heard. Before them is a little hip of firewood and some charcoal which my hosts confirm are the only sources of income for their families, sometimes as large as 10. The women, still in their early twenties, are seemingly overwhelmed by the burdens they started carrying when they were only 10 years old. They are known to walk for days looking for firewood and charcoal which they sell to refugees in the expansive Kakuma refugee camp in...

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Indian Men Redefining Masculinity

By Ruhi Kandhari In a break from tradition in the discourse about violence against women, a group of Indian men is offering an alternative view of Indian masculinity. The Men’s Action for Stopping Violence Against Women (MASVAW) includes social workers, students, academics and journalists who organize meetings, hold rallies, and use street media to spread the word about new ideas about men and masculinity. MASVAW promotes gender justice in Uttar Pradesh, a rural northern state, along with parts of Uttarakhand, also in the north, and the central Indian state of Madhya Pradesh. Their message is direct: promoting equality between...

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Manhood’s Road: From “Selma” to “American Sniper”

by David Masciotra Selma and American Sniper present two different heroes of two dramatically different historical narratives and between two conflicting conceptions of heroism. There is the heroism of Martin Luther King Jr., who challenged the most powerful forces and institutions of his culture, facing death threats and daily harassment, to work tirelessly toward equality and justice, practice peaceful resistance to oppression, and preach love for your neighbor, stranger and even enemy. American Sniper’s Chris Kyle said it was “fun” to kill the “savages” of Iraq, and blindly followed the destructive marching orders of George W. Bush. As much...

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Entre Hombres (y Mujeres)

On the Road to Equality By Rob Okun The inaugural conference of the Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities is one sign. The global MenEngage symposium in India was another. The movement of men promoting women’s rights and men’s transformation is not just growing, it’s linking up in greater numbers than ever before. That two major international gatherings—one in New Delhi, the other in New York—took place within four months of one another is a welcome development. Some 2000 delegates—from every continent on the globe—convened in India in November and the U.S. in March for symposia with...

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